Declutter your spirit and embrace positivity! Part 4

Ok so by now if you have been following along with my series of blogs on this your week should be complete. But it doesn't just stop at the one week challenge. In my research of how good or bad habits are created I have found that the general census is that it takes at least 30-45 days for something to become habit forming in that it is habitual, something you do on a daily basis. With that said, I believe that habitually focusing on your goals and actions toward accomplishing your goals will in essence cause your dreams and goals to manifest into reality. Especially if you have cleansed yourself of all non-essential habits, hinderances, and distractions.

So the list you created and focused on for a week, continue on through your journey of establishing your thoughts toward developing your goals into reality. So part of your process will be to create a list of short term and long term goals that you intend to accomplish by a certain date. It's important that you place an end date on when you expect these things to happen because it will help you to focus and get rid of things that cause you to procrastinate. Also it will allow you to see if your end date is reasonable, in that if you have been working on a specific goal and it is not completed by the targeted end date then you may need to revamp your goal and actions toward making it happen to see what you can improve to speed up the process, or if it's something that will need additional time.

The main point here is this, don't give up. Keep pushing toward making your vision come to pass. Also, remember an attitude of Gratitude will expedite the process of your visions, dreams, and goals, becoming a reality.

Be Blessed in all you do!

~Tamishia Clayborn~

Declutter your spirit and embrace positivity! Part 3

PROGRESS, PROGRESS, PROGRESS!

Ok if you started this with me you should be progressing and moving foward in your progress in positive thinking, having a positive outlook, and changing your life for a better future. How are things going? Have you experienced a change in your attitude, personal life, business, your atmosphere? If not what is holding you back?

Let's take a moment to think about how we can demolish all of the henderances out of our lives so there is nothing holding us back from being able to move forward into a life full of joy, prosperity, and complete fulfillment. Since death and life is in the power of our tounge, meaning the words we speak over ourself, then we may need to change how we talk about our future. Instead of saying "I'm broke, I don't have the money, I'm not capable" demolish that way of talking and switch your words from "I don't, I can't, I'm not" to "I have, I can, I am!"

So with your list that you created of all the things you invision yourself having, being, and doing begin to speak about those things in present tense. Speak about those things as if you already have it and it already exists. Doing this will further affirm into your atmosphere that the things you have declared you will have will manifest.

Here are some words to begin to speak just as a sample list of affirmations:

I am successful

I have everything I want and need

I drive a (input the name of the car you invision yourself driving)

I am Joy

I am Peace

I am love and I am loved

I am respected by everyone and I respect others

I have and abundance of wealth

I have prosperity, I am prosperous, I am successful

I live an abundant and full life

Money comes easily and frequently to me

My business is successful (It's good to name your business on this one to be specific)

I am giving toward others

I have so much wealth and abundance that I am able to give without reservation or hesitation

I have all of the business connections I need

I am always in the right place at the right time meeting the right people that will help me grow my business, life, relationships.

These are just a few example affirmation phrases that you can speak over yourself daily to begin changing your outlook, life, and circumstance!

Live your best life today!

~Tamishia Clayborn~

Declutter your spirit and embrace positivity! Part 2

Ok Now that you have written your positive, visionary, dream, goals list and detroyed the negative list take a moment to reflect on the things you already have in your life that currently bring joy to you. The things you should reflect on are things that are not on your list, this thought process is strictly related to what you already have that you are grateful for.

Gratitude is essential in the process of having a positive mindset about your vision, dreams, goals. Showing or having an attitude of gratitude allows you to have a balance in your mindset regarding reflecting upon what you have, but also allows you to "see" the tools you currently have to help your vision come to pass. For instance, begin to become grateful for things that you may not have even thought of as an option to be grateful for. Most of the time when people reflect on what they are grateful for it's usually things that are essentially priceless like life, your children, your husband/wife, pets, etc. However, also consider being grateful for other things as well like your home, transportation, internet access, a computer, a job, your business, financial resources, etc. Now I know you may be thinking, "but those things are tangible and monetary?," and I'll say yes they are, but sometimes we can be "ungrateful" for those things. Here's what I mean, because we already "have" those things we neglect to reflect on what life would be like if we didn't have a car, a home to live in, clothing, shoes, a computer, internet access, a job and we can easily take those things for granted and not be faithful over them. Just like the bible says be faithful over the little things (few things) and I will make you ruler over much, how do you expect to obtain more or be blessed with more if you are not grateful for or do not take care of what you have now?

So as you reflect on your vision/goal list that you already created, also take time to show gratitude for what you already have.

Bring more Joy into your life and the life of others....

Declutter your spirit and embrace positivity! Part 1

Ok so I just wanted to write a blog to uplift and encourage everyone out there. As women (and men) we all deal with daily struggles and sometimes things may seem a little overwhelmming and overbearing for us to handle. Some of us have children, husbands (wives for the men reading this), jobs, pets, social lives, part time jobs, etc. the list can go on and on...all of these aspects of our lives can bring unneccessary stress or an abundance of JOY. Which one occurs stress or JOY depends on what you allow to happen in your life.

Speaking only to the women now, as women we all have an inner strength that allows us to overcome any obstacle that may cross our path. That inner strength also gives us the remarkable power and ability to by pass foolishness, yet sometimes we get caught up in foolishness and negate our ability to be greater than our circumstances. The type of foolishness I'm referring to is things that we all know don't warrant a second of our time but we still spend our precious energy, time, and efforts focusing on things that will not bring any multiplication, power, strength, or JOY to our lives.

So here's what I say, I say let's take time to think about what really matters to us, what is really important, what will help us live a joyful and fulfilled life. Once we do that let's collectively decide to focus on the things in our lives that we know will help us move forward and not backward. Part of doing this will allow all of us to see what's really important in life and what we need to focus on to move forward in our life journey.

EXERCISE

As an exercise I think that everyone men and women alike should write down the things that they know are not positive and do not bring any satisfaction or joy to them. Once that list is written out don't even look at it anymore, crumple it up and set it asside. Then write a list of all the things you want to accomplish, achieve, aspire toward in life read it out loud, make copies of it and put it up all over the house in places you will always be able to look at it, reflect on it, and expound on it. Take the other list that you crumpled up that has all of the negative things and burn it up. That's right I said burn it up, but be sure to do it in a safe place that will not cause a harmful fire to occur in your home (practice safety first). Once the negative list is burned up forget about everything you wrote on that list that doesn't bring any joy to your life and focus on the positive list you created.

CHALLENGE

I'd like to present a challenge to everyone to focus on your list of positive things for the entire week. Then post a response of what happened as a result of having a positive attitude and outlook on life.

Be Blessed in all you do and become a blessing to others!

Have a great and prosperous day!

Learning Forgiveness

So life in general has been pretty good lately. However, I found out that forgiveness is the key to making sure your blessings from God come through. I was aware of this, but not in the fullest extent of its meaning. I recently had to search my soul to see where I may have carried unforgiveness. After some soul searching, praying, fasting, and crying I found that I still had some areas in my life that I had not totally forgiven for. I mean this was stuff from a very long time ago, things that my mother made me angry about or things that my father said to me. I learned that by keeping those thoughts in my heart and remaining unforgiving allowed for other things to happen in my life that I did not like. Unforgiveness caused my blessings to be delayed and therefore I was not walking in the perfected will of God. I realized that it was not my desire to stay in a state of unforgiveness so I took it upon myself to call them and let them know that I forgive them, whether they received it or not I had to wash my hands and heart of the hurt and pain that was still there. There was a time when I thought that I had totally forgiven but when a certain situation was brought up I would still feel the negative emotions connected to it. Now that I have forgiven my parents, relatives, ex-boyfriends, and associates (all of those that I have not forgiven), I feel free. I feel like it doesn't matter what has been said or done to me in the past, its done, its over, and I forgive. So now I feel that the things that I have been believing God for can finally take place in my life. 2007 was definitely a year of completion for me and I believe that I have completed the task of forgiving those who affected me in a negative way. Now that it has been completed I feel God can open up the windows of heaven and pour out his blessings upon me. So for those of you that are reading this, I pray that you can complete the task of forgiving others who have negatively affected you so you can allow God room to grow in your heart. By forgiving others and clearing your heart of all animosity you can begin to receive whole heartedly the blessings that God has for you in your life. Be blessed and forgive those who have trespassed against you as Your Father in Heaven has Forgiven You. Many blessing to you.

~Tamishia~

~Love~

I want to take a moment to talk about love. Love for many people has different meanings. Some people consider love to be an inherent attraction they have for another human being. Others who have several different types of relationships have different levels of love that they express for parents, children, pets, things, family, etc. So essentially love can be expressed in different forms and fashions. However, love is the greatest commandment that God gave us; He said that we must love our neighbors as we love ourselves. Even when discussing the fruits of the spirit God says that love is the greatest above all. There are different forms of love but the agape form of love is the purest way to express love from one person to another. That form of love is forgiving, caring, honest, kind, and non-judgmental. I know people in general have a difficult time truly expressing agape love in its purest form. It was the agape love of Jesus Christ that allowed many of us to become Christians and be saved, but many of us that call ourselves Christians have a difficult time truly expressing agape love. Unfortunately we hold on to grudges and blame others for our shortcomings, my friends that is not the way to express the agape love of Jesus Christ. We even often pass judgment on other people knowing that we are still walking in unrighteousness. That is not the agape love of Jesus Christ. I know we are all striving for perfection daily, but in the pursuit of our striving for perfection, let's take time to pursue showing the agape love of God. I'm not saying it will be easy, it will be hard I'm sure, but do your best to achieve it, because when you do, you will find that you will have greater peace. I'm not saying that I have perfected expressing agape love, but I am definitely striving to express and show it the best way I can. Be blessed in you expression of pure agape love toward one another.

Peace,

Tamishia

Keep pursuing your dreams

When dealing with the things you desire to gain in life having a determined and focused mindset allows your dreams to come to pass. I'm not saying that pursuing your dreams is easy, because believe me you will have a lot of failures along the way, but when you are determined failures do not stop you from making your dreams come to pass. For example I have been seeking to buy a home since I was 22 years old, but I have not given up. You don't want to know how many times I have been declined for a home loan or how many times I was told my income level does not allow me to afford a home, but did I give up, NO. I am still pursuing my dream of becoming a homeowner, and everyday it seems I am getting closer and closer to my dreams coming to fruition. I may have incurred some set backs and situations that seemed like failure, but I am not going to let anything stop me from gaining what I desire to have which is to become a homeowner. Now being a homeowner is not my only dream for my life, but that is just one dream that I have been pursuing for a long time. Be determined to get what belongs to you. Remember you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. There is nothing that can hold you back from obtaining your hearts desire, but you. Yes I said you, you can be the main hindrance to achieving your goals or obtaining your dreams. Don't let negative thoughts or words deter you from receiving and achieving all of your dreams for your life. Be encouraged and don't give up on pursuing your dreams.

~Tamishia~